Alphabet Of Manly Virtues: “D” Is For “Devoted”

16 May

dIf you’re anything like me, you’re probably a Star Wars fan!

You’ve watched the movies, tv show and read as many novels as you can—you can’t get enough. Looking at the SWEU (Star Wars Expanded Universe) you’ll notice Luke Skywalker has set up a New Jedi Order on Yavin 4. In this order, young Padawans were trained to use the light side of the force. These would be dedicated to serve their masters. The Jedi had a code. This code was to respect all life, care for others even at the cost of yours. They were completely devoted to not only their Master, but they were also committed to the Force.

Sometimes, we as men feel the need to conquer the world. This is okay, so long as we don’t lose our focus on what’s truly important; our relationship with God. I want to focus on two aspects of what it means to be a devoted man. This applies to you if you’re single, married or simply dating.

1.   Be A Devoted Husband:

As my wife and I approach our first wedding anniversary, I realize I have grown to understand moreabout what it means to be a man than in 31 years of life and 15 years of ministry. I’ve taught men, preached from the pulpit, led Bible studies, youth groups and have helped lead crusades in other nations. None of that has compared to what I’ve learned in this past year of marriage. My every moment is for my wife. I only desire the best for her, want her to succeed in life and don’t expect her to do everything or anything in return.

I’m a blessed man. From the moment I wake up in the morning, I ask myself, “What can I do today to honor my wife?”  I’m in the habit of writing little notes for her to take to work. She’ll read them on her lunch breaks. We’ll talk over lunch. I’ll come home from work and will either begin making dinner, or I’ll wait and we’ll make dinner together.

I’m devoted to her. I want nothing more than for this marriage to be the best marriage ever! If you’re a married man, you know what I’m taking about. You’ve been there, or are still there. My encouragement is to remain devoted to your wife. Do little things to help her understand how much you care and how much you adore her. Listen to her and heed her advice. It’s the little things that go further than flashy gifts. In other words, put her first and you second.

While all that is beneficial to a marriage, the best way for us to honor our wives is to be the man God has called us to be. The Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthinas 7:19-24 states,

Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts you were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God has called him to.

It does not matter where we are in our lives, we are to be devoted first to God and His works. This means in every area of our life… sexually, mentally, financially, work, reading, doing dishes and the list goes on. What we do in our walk with Christ determines the level of success we’ll have in our marriages and lives.

2. Be A Disciple of Christ:

John 15 is one of my favorite passages in scripture. In Jesus’ last message to his disciples, we find He asks us to remain and abide in Him.

Remain in Me, and I in you. Just as a branch is unable to produce fruit by itself unless it remains on the vine, so neither can you unless you remain in Me.John 15:4 (HCSB).

If we want a successful fruit bearing life, we must make the choice of whom we will serve. Will we choose the easy way and follow our own ambitions, or will we bow our knee and pride and follow Christ. God’s desire is for us to abide in His will.

I’ve often heard that the safest place to be is in the center of God’s will. I challenge that statement. If the safest place is to be in the center of God’s will why did Saul pursue King David; why were the Christians killed for the cause of Christ, and why was Christ murdered on a cross?

While we may never have an easy life being a Christ-follower, we can have a victorious life in Christ by abiding in Him, as He abides in the Father.

To be a disciple is to be like Christ. A Jedi Padawan sought to be like his master. They desired to mimic, talk, and act like their master. We as Christ’s disciples we should desire to act, mimic and be like Christ. This all comes through prayer and meditation. If we are not constantly spending daily time with the Father in prayer and getting to know Christ through His word, we are short-changing ourselves. The best thing we as men can do is to be devoted to Christ first.

Most people tend to allow life to happen without giving God a second thought. They’ll go to church on Sunday and to a Bible Study on Tuesday, but that is the extent of following Christ. What happened to living a life of reckless abandon? We are called to give up completely to in a hasty and audacious way to our desire for God. To be a man, called by God’s grace, we need to learn that everything is not about us; everything is about pleasing God.

What is your choice going to be? Will you continue doing what you’ve always done by following your own ambitions? If you do, you will wonder why your marriage and relationships are rocky or failing. Will you lay your manly pride down by picking up the cross of Christ and follow Him? If you do that, you will begin to find relationships are healed, life is successful and grace is poured out. His desire is for us to know Him and be known by Him. If we give up completely to our desire for God powerful things will happen, and we’ll begin to live the life God has destined for us.

Let’s be devoted men who desire Christ and through that that spiritual relationship honor our wives.

-J.B. Sisam


J. B. SISAM attended Bethany College of Missions and graduated with a Bachelor of Divinity degree from ACTS International Bible College. He is a certified leader and trainer through Leadership Training International. He served his ministry internship in Australia, and his ministry travels have taken him to all five continents. He carries a passion to see this generation live a passionate life for Jesus Christ to begin walking in the calling God has placed on their lives. J. B. SISAM is known for story telling that combines Biblically laced stories that bring hope and redemption. He is one of the Pastors at Life Church in Minneapolis, MN and has a passion to see this generation find their destiny in God. J. B. Sisam lives in Minneapolis with his wife Kari. Website: Blog: Facebook: Twitter: @jbsisam

One Response to “Alphabet Of Manly Virtues: “D” Is For “Devoted””

  1. jbsisam May 16, 2013 at 10:22 #

    Reblogged this on Official Blog of J. B. Sisam and commented:
    I’ve been busy locked away working on my next book! I’m excited about it and I can’t wait to share with you some of what I’ve been up to.

    In the meantime take a look at the blog below I wrote for This is part 4 of a 26 part series on manhood. Take a read… sound off below in the comments and share with others.


    J. B. Sisam

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