Replacing Thoughtfulness on Valentine’s Day

11 Feb

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Valentine’s Day is over-commercialized.

It is gushy.

It is annoying.

It is unnecessary.

The list goes on and on why we don’t like the holiday.

However, it is upon us, and it is apart of our culture.  Looking at the positive aspect of the holiday, it is good to show love and affection to our significant other.

So have you been thinking ahead about a new expression of your love?  Have you been creating possible ways for you to share with them how much you love them.

According to the National Retail Federation, the average male plans on spending $133.91 this year on Valentine’s Day.  Apparently I am not the average man because we tend to go to Denny’s (and that is only if I have a coupon).  In the hectic moments of life, they run into the nearest store, grad the first thing that is red and pink, and comes with free wrapping paper, and run home.  Or they go online and google “instant flower delivery.”

By this time, it doesn’t matter if we get them for $15 or $150.  Sometimes we even over-compensate for our lack of planning buy spending even more money to cover our neglect.

My fear is that many men let their money replaces their thoughtfulness.   It can be done.  You can even get away with it.

However, replacing thoughtfulness with money is a dangerous route.

But for many people, this can become a route that will cheapen love and diminish relationships.

For most men, it isn’t important to most whether or not our significant other spends hours thinking through my gift.  It doesn’t matter if I can tell if she bought it after weeks of planning, or out of impulse while in line at Target.

Thoughtfulness matters for most women. 

Spend time this week working on something that is made specifically for them (a poem, card, a personalized gift, a specially planned event).  Do something that reveals a new expression of love for your loved one.   It doesn’t require big money, but does require big thoughtfulness.

The truth is that down deep, most women know.  They know the difference between a gift purchased hastily and a gift of thoughtfulness.

This Valentine’s Day, please don’t let your wallet replace your thoughtfulness.

2 Responses to “Replacing Thoughtfulness on Valentine’s Day”

  1. joniscudder February 11, 2014 at 09:40 #

    I love your perspective. In fact I just wrote a blog on the same topic from a woman’s perspective saying why I dislike the holiday. It is nice to see it from a mans point of view.

    • gdavidboyd February 11, 2014 at 16:54 #

      Thanks, Joni. I appreciate your note.

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