Archive | May, 2014

8 Women Christian Men should NEVER marry.

20 May

Man and woman marriageI wanted to pass this article alone to the single men within our community.  You will never find a perfect spouse, but there are some characteristics that you will want to do without.  Here is a great list!

http://www.charismamag.com/blogs/fire-in-my-bones/19821-8-women-christian-men-should-never-marry

What if Proverbs 31 was written to men? My Response

15 May

For years, my wife has groaned whenever a pastor has preached on Proverbs 31.  I thought the passage was nice.  I thought it should make her happy.  She tried to explain to me how over-whelming the demands of this passage, and how it makes all women…well, come up lacking.

I did not understand until I decided to change it around.  What if Proverbs 31 was written to men?  What if I wanted to achieve the goal of my children rising up and calling me blessed.

So I changed the gender of this passage.  Not for the sake of biblical translation, not for the sake of gender wars…  I changed it so I could get a sense of why Proverbs 31 is so hard for many women.

Here is the chapter with my reflections:

Epilogue: The Husband of Noble Character

10 A husband of noble character who can find?  He is worth far more than rubies.
11 His wife has full confidence in him   (I lost her full confidence on the day, I tried to fix the washing machine.)  and lacks nothing of value.  (Well, my hair is a little lacking these days!)
12 He brings her good, not harm, all the days of his life.
13 He selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
14 He is like the merchant ships, bringing his food from afar.     (Do Ramen Noodles really come from Asia?)
15 He gets up while it is still night; he provides food for his family (Finally, a YES!  As long as Delivery Counts?) and portions for his servants.
16 He considers a field and buys it;  (I found a house.  I bought a house, and then lost lots of money when the market fell.) out of his earnings he plants a vineyard.  (Therefore, the vineyard will have to wait.)
17 He sets about his work vigorously; his arms are strong for his tasks.   (Never been accused of strong arms, but I am a hard worker.)
18 He sees that his trading is profitable, and his lamp does not go out at night.  (So when did sleep become a BAD thing?)
19 In his hand he holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with his fingers.
20 He opens his arms to the poor and extends his hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, he has no fear for his household;     (I live in Minnesota, so scarlet is not going to cut it, even if I knew how to sew.) for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 He makes coverings for his bed; he is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 His wife is respected within the community, where she takes her seat among the leaders of the land.
24 He makes linen garments and sells them,    (Don’t you have to be a celebrity to sell clothing?) and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 He is clothed with strength and dignity; he can laugh at the days to come.    (Somedays, I laugh.  Other days, I cry.)
26 He speaks with wisdom, (Except when I thought that the telephone timeshare vacation was a good deal.) and faithful instruction is on his tongue.
27 He watches over the affairs of his household  (Oh yeah, where are my kids?  I am too busy sewing.) and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 His children arise and call him blessed;   (My boys do give me nicknames, but this is NOT one of them.) his wife also, and she praises him:
29 “Many men do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a man who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Honor him for all that his hands have done, and let his works bring him praise within the community.         (Isn’t life more than what we do?)

After viewing if from a different perspective, let’s just say…

I understand now.

 

What if Proverbs 31 was written to men?

13 May

My purpose in changing the gender in this passage is not to bring up arguments over the use of gender in scripture (although I feel that it is very important that I might address another day).  My purpose is to discover how our view of the passage would change if it had been written about men.

Here you go…  Are you a MAN of noble character?

Epilogue: The Husband of Noble Character

10 A husband of noble character who can find?
He is worth far more than rubies.
11 His wife has full confidence in him
and lacks nothing of value.
12 He brings her good, not harm,
all the days of his life.
13 He selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 He is like the merchant ships,
bringing his food from afar.
15 He gets up while it is still night;
he provides food for his family
and portions for his servants.
16 He considers a field and buys it;
out of his earnings he plants a vineyard.
17 He sets about his work vigorously;
his arms are strong for his tasks.
18 He sees that his trading is profitable,
and his lamp does not go out at night.
19 In his hand he holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with his fingers.
20 He opens his arms to the poor
and extends his hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, he has no fear for his household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 He makes coverings for his bed;
he is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 His wife is respected within the community,
where she takes her seat among the leaders of the land.
24 He makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 He is clothed with strength and dignity;
he can laugh at the days to come.
26 He speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on his tongue.
27 He watches over the affairs of his household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 His children arise and call him blessed;
his wife also, and she praises him:
29 “Many men do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a man who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor him for all that his hands have done,
and let his works bring him praise within the community.

How does this make you feel after reading? 

How do you think women feel after reading the original Proverbs 31?

 

 

 

10 Mother’s Day Gifts That Won’t Cost a Penny

8 May

Parents should their role-modeling quotient.We are all looking for ways to save money without short-cutting our wife on Mother’s Day.    I saw this article, and wanted to share it with you.

Please make sure to remember your MOTHER, and your WIFE. Have a great holiday weekend!

 

Dr. G. David Boyd

 

Stepping up to the Plate on Mother’s Day

6 May

Mother’s Day is almost here.  Before you run out to Walmart, and buy the first thing that catches your eye, let’s think about that precious woman in our life – the mother of our children.

She is the one who endured the unnatural and strange food cravings, losing that food to endless morning sickness, the swollen feet, the inability to see your feet, the sleepless nights, the low back pain, the endless trips to go to the bathroom, the weight gain, the permanent TV tray protruding from her belly.  Did I even mention the pain of delivery? Or the recovery?

Taken towards the end of the photo shoot, guess the cuteness was to much for her; She did it.  Maybe you are the one who listened to her early morning gagging, put up with a little complaining, and made late-night trips to Dairy Queen or the grocery store, but overall we got off really easy.

Yes, we know that she is not YOUR mother.  However, that doesn’t get you off the hook (especially if you are the father of younger children).

She stepped up to the plate, and delivered.  Here is a day to say thanks.  Here is the day to acknowledge her home run.

It is now your turn up at bat.

Make it special.  Make it personal.  Make it now.

Don’t wait.  Don’t forget.

Don’t strike out.

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