Real Men Walk Away

5 Aug
Picture 089 from Flickr via Wylio

© 2009 Bradley West, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio

I was recently camping for the weekend when I saw an older teenager, repeatedly throwing a circular ring (Frisbee disc) at a post, trying to ring the post.  I didn’t think much about it.  It only became a little unusual when an hour later, I passed the same spot, and I saw the same young man, doing the same thing.

So I asked him, “what are you doing?”

“I am trying to ring the post.  My dad did it.  My brother did it, and now I am going to do it.”  He clearly was not having fun.  He was hot, tired, and exhausted.  His dad and brother were no where to be seen.  None of his family was with him.

I could tell this is something that he had determined that he had to do.  So, here he was toss after toss, in order to prove himself.

I responded.  “You know there are times in life when walking away is the most manly thing that you can do.”

Later that night, I walked by him and his family as they were enjoying a meal.  He recognized me, and called out to me.  “Hey, thanks for the advice.  If it weren’t for you, I would still be trying to ring that post.”

As children, it was instilled into our minds that you should never give up or quit.  However, quitting something may be the wisest thing that you ever do in your life.  Examine what you are attempting to obtain in this life.  Are you pursuing something that is making you miss out on many other blessings of life?

Your manhood is not at stake if you quit.  Real men know when to walk away.

“Don’t waste your time on useless work, mere busywork, the barren pursuits of darkness.”  Ephesians 5:11

2 Responses to “Real Men Walk Away”

  1. Dave ScottDave August 5, 2014 at 15:30 #

    Must admit, the blog title caught my attention. Awesome work David, at using engaging titles to get attention. Personally, I couldn’t disagree more with the content in the blog piece. That said, if what we are pursuing as men, is of “barren pursuits” as stated in Eph 5:11, then you nailed it. If we, as men, are pursuing things that are un-Godly and not of Phil 4:8, then yes, we need to walk away.

    However, many men, both old and young, are taught to give up and walk away. They are taught to ‘walk away’ by what they see in the secular world and by what they see and hear in fellow brothers in the Lord. I feel, the scriptures call us to set goals and commitments and stick to them. Commitments like daily prayer, pursuing your wife, persevering in a career environment that is less than ideal, these types of things we need to fight for and never walk away from.

    May I suggest reading ‘Fight’ by Craig Groeschel and ‘Heroic Path’ by John Sowers. Both are great reads about how men need to fight and develop a level of commitment rooted in action, perseverance and the Lord Almighty.

    As for the boy trying to hit the post, maybe some smaller wins would’ve been helpful for him, instead of completely walking away. Thanks for posting the piece. It certainly stirred some conversation.

    • Jacob Beasley August 7, 2014 at 00:08 #

      Not just ungodly things, too. Sometimes things are just distractions in our lives. I’ve heard of pastors becoming so devoted to their ministries that they neglect their other responsibilities, or more commonly people becoming obsessed with work. While these things are not in-and-of themselves ungodly, if they are not fruitful and cause us to neglect our responsibilities, its best to walk away. We need to focus on what’s important.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: