Real Men Ask for Directions

11 Sep


Real Men don’t ask for directions.  It must be true, you can even buy it on a t-shirt.

I remember getting lost on my first date.  We were headed to Chili’s on the west side of Indianapolis.  Instead of turning north on I-465, I decided to go south.  We circled the entire city of Indianapolis before I even realized that I had made a mistake.

The invention of the smart phone has saved countless men from the humiliation of stopping and asking for directions; however, you often still hear forms of this joke stating clearly that men do not ask for directions.  We would rather rely on our own instincts that ask for help.  We keep going, believing we can do it.  With each passing minute (or mile marker), we become more determined which sometimes leads us even farther in the wrong direction.

I still remember the Christmas that I got the GI Joe Night Raven.  This was no ordinary toy jet – the Backbird was awesome.  It was a massive jet with movable wings and lots of missiles.  What more I could I ask for?  The blackbird even had a drop down cock pit that was totally awesome.  However, it was a little tricky to put together, and in the process of trying to figure it out on my own – I broke it.  I tried to force it to do something that it wasn’t intended to do.  Unfortunately, it wasn’t a little broken, but completely broken.  My refusal to follow the directions caused me to break my Christmas gift.

While my stubbornness cost me my Cobra Night Raven, sometimes refusing to stop and ask for help has a much bigger price tag.  Many men struggle along for years only adding to their pain because of a stubborn will to admit that they need help.

Often our refusal to ask for help is rooted in a sense of personal pride.  This is another reason that pride is so deadly to faith, and our walk with God.  Humility and the ability to ask for help will empower us to live lives of integrity much more than pride and a stubborn sense of independence.

Healing can begin when we turn to the source of our help.

The Psalmist writes, “I lift up my eyes to the hills.  From where does my help come?  It comes from the Lord.  The Maker of Heaven and Earth.”  God is the source of our help, and He has given us several other sources of directions including:  friends, family, the Word, and other forms of revelation.

What are you facing right now that you need help in addressing?  Is it as simple as fixing your sink?  For others, it is complex – like fixing their marriage, or a relationship with a child.  Regardless of how big or how small –

Stop and ask for directions.


david in hatDr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.  He does own a smartphone, but is often not smart enough to get it to work.


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