The Scary Steps of Freedom

6 Nov

© 2010 Dave Nakayama, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio

You will know the truth and the truth will set you free. (John 8:32)

I don’t understand freedom.  I have spent my entire life in chains.  Like the baby elephant bound by the tent peg.  Like the dolphin confined by the tank.  Like the puppy confined by the cage.  At times I consider venturing out to something new, but I can’t.

Freedom comes with many emotions – joy, excitement, and over-whelming…

fear, uncertainty, and panic.

For chains are something that one can becomes accustomed to especially if they are all you have ever known.  Even the most restricting chains becomes to feel like what should be.   I stand at the opening of my cage weeping.

After years of boundaries, freedom comes with a sense of guilt from breaking boundaries even after they have been removed.  After years of darkness, the light of freedom can cause you to become disillusioned.  After years of being determined, freedom comes with an unwelcome sense of responsibility.  After years of the same, freedom comes with a sense of unknown.

I thought freedom would be an easy journey.  I thought it would feel immediately natural, and once free I would never want to go back.

I can tell you from experience that freedom takes some adjustments, and you might need some help from those who understand how a life of freedom works.  You will need someone who can steady you when you stumble, push you when fear freezes you, or exhaustion tests your resolve, and confusion causes you to dream of returning to what lies behind.

Freedom bring another emotion… a great sense of humility.

The bigger the gift, the more unworthy you feel as the receiver.  God’s freedom is big, and came with a huge price – a price that was paid on Calvary so many years ago.  A payment was made so I didn’t have too.  A promise was fulfilled that was made so many years before.

Freedom for me then is free…but that doesn’t mean that it is easy.  It was not easy to find.  It was not easy to embrace, and it certainly is not easy to live.   

Freedom that comes with such a price would be a shame to miss.

So why do I still stand at the gate of my cage?


© 2012 Steve Baker, Flickr | CC-BY-ND | via Wylio

Here is a great video of some dogs who are experiencing freedom for the first time.


Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to help emerging adults and their parents.

2 Responses to “The Scary Steps of Freedom”

  1. Ted Goodwin November 6, 2014 at 08:14 #

    Totally get this right now. Thank you.

  2. Melinda K Taylor November 6, 2014 at 08:14 #

    I learned that freedom is not easy. It also means that you have to learn to know who you are, your likes and dislikes. Sometimes it is really hard to determine who you are and you are surprised in the end about who you really are. As you grow older there comes more freedoms that have other names for it. For me my roles had changed from being a wife to a single person, still a mother but to grown-ups instead of children, a grandmother, I had to find a job, get an education. But my freedom is worth all these changes in my life and best of all I have my freedom in Christ.

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