Archive | March, 2015

FREE Skullcandy Headphones for Sharing MTAB

30 Mar

EA Resources (stands for Emerging Adult Resources) is the non-profit that supports MTAB Community.  EA Resources is hosting a contest to give away a free pair of Skullcandy Hesh 2 Headphones (Black or White).  hesh 2

Here is how you can enter:

  • Every time you share any article from EA Resources or Morethanabeard by Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter.  (Must be shared publicly on your timeline.)
  • If you tag someone in that share, you gain an additional entry.
  • You can earn up to 2 entries per day.
  • Please Tag me (David Boyd – Facebook) and Twitter (G. David Boyd)

Rules: 1.  This contest is off-limits to direct family of David and Rachel Boyd.  2.  If you have any questions, please write them below. 3.  Contest will end on April 22.

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Beyond Mentoring – Marks of Symbiotic Relationship

26 Mar

Photo Courtesy of Aaron Robert Photography. Copyright 2013. http://www.aaronrobertphotography.com

Last month, I shared how the church needs to think beyond mentoring to engage emerging adults.  Mentoring often gives the impression of an omnidirectional relationship where one person gives and one receives.  Continue reading

Is Porn Killing Men’s Desire for Marriage?

17 Mar

Is Porn Replacing Men's Desire for Marriage?

We know that porn is a problem.  It affects singles (which is the topic of the article), but it also has negative consequences on marriages.  You can read the full article on http://www.boundless.org, a great website dedicated to young adults.

If you missed it, here is the article.

While I do believe that the easy access and widespread use of pornography is affecting the declining rate of marriage, it is not the only factor.  Marriage rates have been affected by cohabitation, the removal of sexual boundaries, social perceptions of marriage, delay of financial stability, and other factors.

What else do you believe is causing the decline of marriage rates?

 

 

Is Russell Brand our new Ally for Fighting Pornography?

12 Mar

 

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Regardless of what you think about Russell Brand, he has emerged once again in the news for something you might not expect from him…

 Speaking out against 50 Shades of Grey and Pornography.

Here is the Original Video.

I want to make a few things clear…

  • I did not see 50 Shades of Grade (nor do I want to see it).
  • I believe that Pornography and 50 Shades is unhealthy for our society, and destructive to humanity.
  • The Content of Russell’s Brand is Excellent.
  • Russell Brand is a great speaker, engaging, and intelligent.

However, am I the only one struggling with Russell Brand as a spokesperson for ending pornography in our world?

What does this reveal to us?

1.  Our desperate desire for people to speak out against porn overrules the context.  

Russell BrandDid Russell Brand just roll out of bed (wrapped only in a bed sheet), and decide to record an episode of The Trews?  While his bed is regularly the setting for his videos, how did people fail to notice that his body is barely covered?  I am not sure how the entire episode could have been recorded, edited, and produced without someone realizing that the entire video could qualify as soft porn.  I hope that in future broadcasts, Russell will consider his own words when filming the show.

2.  Our desperate desire for people to speak out against porn overrules their past.

Please know that this is not to blast Russell Brand for his past or present (because that is not my job).  Popularity and media power outstrip integrity.  I am glad that Russell spoke out about his use of porn.  The piece would have been more powerful if he would have acknowledged how many times that his own body (as soft core porn) has been used to promote his work and career.

An effective spokesperson against porn can be led by authenticity, and not perfection.  Russell never claims that he has stopped using pornography.  He speaks authentically about his past introduction and present struggle against porn.

There are times when we find ourselves with unlikely allies.  The video is filled with excellent content, and so why waste our time judging and attacking an ally on this issue.

Brand’s video went viral which shows us that…

Our world is desperate for people to speak against pornography.  

I write to encourage all men to speak up against pornography.

Influence your friends.  Influence your circles.  Influence your children.

 

david in hatDr. G. David Boyd is EA Resources, a non-profit designed to equip parents and emerging adults to survive the 20’s.

 

 

Why Won’t Christian Men Date Women Who Go To Their Church?

10 Mar

ChurchHere is an article that I came across over the weekend.

As someone who has worked within the church among teenagers and emerging adults, I have seen how dating can change the social climate of a group.

Here are some reasons why the men interviewed would not date women at their church.

Reason #1: They’re worried about their reputations.

I have seen men get ridiculed for not asking out any girls, only to be later scorned for asking out too many.

Reason #2: Rather than giving them more options, dating girls at church actually gives them fewer options.

Reason #3: It complicates things.

Due to the small size of many emerging adult communities at churches, a relationship often means the destruction of a social group.  If a man enjoys his church home, he may not wish to jeopardize this community by dating.

Reason #4: There are so many better ways to meet women.

Dating website have clearly changed the way that single Christians meet and date.

Reason #5: It feels inappropriate.

 

What are your thoughts?

 

Here is the full article Christy Krumm.

8 Christian Expression that I Apologize for ever Using.

5 Mar

1.  Soul-winning

When there are so many other expressions available to describe sharing your faith with others, this one should be avoided.   This expression is misleading and can lead to terrible theology.  First of all, soul-winning is not something that we do.   Secondly, I am also not sure how the church has allowed faith to become wrapped together with the concept of “winning.”  (I could go on, but I will refrain.)

2.  Unspoken

I grew up in a Christian environment where problems were not discussed, and the appearance of piety was crucial.  Whenever it came to taking prayer requests, more than half our group would raise their hands, and simply utter “Unspoken.”  The community’s understanding of this word was that they did not need to speak another word, and no questions would ever be asked.  I understand that not all issues should be made public, but when all prayer requests are reduced to “unspoken,” I begin to wonder if we are praying, or even being the Church at all.

3.  Finding the Will of God

I once again admit to using this term in various contexts, so I apologize to those it may have harmed.  This phrase brings confusion because it portrays God’s will as something mysterious and difficult to discover rather than following God’s daily guidance and making decisions.  The Psalmist writes, “Your Word, O Lord, is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.”

4.  Go Deeper

This phrase is often used to explain that some teaching or curriculum is too shallow or basic.  However, what exactly does “go deeper” even mean?  I don’t believe that we can really gauge the depth of various theological issues.  One Christian may perceive one topic deep, while another considers it shallow.

The Bible does mention “elementary teachings” in Hebrew 6:1-2.  So let’s see what topics are not deep?

Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity, not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death, and of faith in God, instruction about cleansing rites, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.

The shallow list includes:  repentance, faith in God, cleansing rites, laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.  Was this list written to explain basic teaching for all people at all times?  I don’t think so.

Usually I hear this expression voiced by those who want more facts, statistics, and Bible knowledge.  It is driven by a modernistic mind-set which believes that knowledge equals godliness.  However, we all know that knowledge does not equal change or spiritual depth.

5.  Love the Sinner, hate the sin.

I am still looking for the passage in the Bible where I am called to hate other people’s sin.  God hates sin, but as I read scripture, Jesus seems to make it extremely clear that we are not called to judge other people (Matthew 7:1-3)

6.  Traveling Mercies

Another phrase often repeated during Christian prayer time is “traveling mercies.” While this phrase requested no accidents or mechanical breakdowns, it was also used to share with others that you were going on vacation.  (However, as a kid who rarely went on vacation, maybe I am just bitter!)  While I have asked God for His protection, we must remember that mercy comes in various forms.  (Have you heard this song by Laura Story?)

7.  Teenagers are the church of tomorrow.

This expression continues the false teaching that teenagers are incapable of participating or contributing to the church today.  I am a strong believer in the unity of the body of Christ, and that all generations have a role within the church.  (For more read, Disfigured Body of Christ).

8.  I just believe the Bible

It is similar to the expression “Bible-believing” and “God said it.  I believe it, and that settles it.”  These phrases are often said to stifle theological discussion by refusing to acknowledge the process of biblical interpretation.  As Christians, we can hold different theological position without causing us fear or doubt our own faith.

 

What is your least favorite expression that Christians use?

 

photoDr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to provide resources to parents and emerging adults.  You can follow his writing and work on Twitter or Instagram.

How to Choose the Perfect Board Game

3 Mar

This is for all those board game enthusiasts.  I enjoy playing board games.  My current favorites are Catan and Marvel Legendary.  I wish that board gaming would make us more like Jesus, but I haven’t found that verse yet.  As for the picture – You either get it, or you don’t.

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to provide resources for emerging adults and their parents.

 

 

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