Archive | December, 2015

A Letter to Dad – He’s Better off Dead if he’s Gay.

22 Dec

Please note that this article is not an argument about the morality of same-sex relationships.  It is a story about a parent’s response to their child’s sexual orientation.  It is written by Sam Riviera.

Dad,

You probably thought you’d never hear from me again. Well, it’s me. I’m alive.

But now I’m somewhere where you can never find me or hurt me.

LGBT Homeless TEenThere’s a public library near here where I can get on the internet. I check Facebook. Sometimes I see your posts. I read that you found out I’m gay. Did you really say “He’s better off dead if he’s gay”? What is that supposed to mean? Is that some kind of threat? To your own flesh and blood? You want me dead? Seriously?

Read the rest of this article here.

 

The Power of Generational Mediators

15 Dec

A “mediator” serves as a conduit, or channel, between two parties in conflict, seeking to ensure that both feel understood, respected, and able to contribute towards an agreeable solution.

As a pastor, I have served as a mediator numerous times – negotiating house rules, establishing consensus over new policies in the church, or seeking healing in a relationship.

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Within the church, disagreements can erupt between different generations due to disparate values, beliefs, and practices. I have stood up in defense of Millennials amidst a boardroom of angry Baby boomers, and I have defused frustration among disillusioned Millennials in hallway conversations.

As churches seek to become more intergenerational in their programming, conflict will inevitably arise. Does your community have people who are equipped to serve as intermediaries between the generations? Mediators of generational conflict can restore peace and unity in three ways.

1.    Mediators understand.

Effective mediators are “swift to hear, slow to speak.” (James 1:19) They ask great questions and are motivated to understand another’s perspective. They want to know the “what,” but will keep digging until they also discover the “whys.” Before bringing together conflicting parties, mediators will seek to understand each group’s desires, values, and practices.

2.     Mediators translate.

During times of conflict, fear and anger can limit or completely block reasonable communication. Mediators are able to remove these obstacles and promote effective communication. By knowing those involved, they will choose words and expressions designed to calm emotions and facilitated mutual understanding between the parties. Fruitful mediation takes time, and all sides must remain patient through the process, believing the results will be worth the effort.

3.    Mediators build bridges.

In the midst of discord, we tend to focus on our differences and perceive our opposition as villains. Dehumanizing others relieves our own sense of guilt, allowing us to justify hurtful words, thoughts, and actions. Mediators remind each side of their common ground, and build bridges towards mutual respect, understanding, and love. As human beings, we can always find some common ground in personal fears, dreams, and emotions. Within the church, mediators lead us to our common ground in Jesus and His call upon our lives.

If your community seeks to become intergenerational, who has God provided as potential mediators?  Seek out and train individuals who are able to value varied perspectives, who can communicate with patience, and who know how to build bridges upon common faith and love.  Well-trained mediators are essential to maintaining a healthy, united community.

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.  This article first appeared on ChurchCentral.com, where David is a regular contributor.

The 62 Worst And Weirdest Nativities by Mark Oestreicher

8 Dec

Some people spend hundreds and thousands of dollars on a picture perfect nativity scene, while others simply improvise.

Here is a link to an article by Mark Oestreicher from the Youth Cartel, as he has gathered the Worst and Weirdest Nativities.  It is sure to make you laugh.

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Names for Men’s Ministry – More than a Beard

1 Dec

One of our more popular posts here on MTAB is a post that I compiled a list of name possibilities for a men’s ministries.

Here is the Link!

I know that people often google names when launching a new ministry at their church.  Recently, I received an e-mail asking for permission to use MTAB as the name of their men’s ministry.  The request came from Hilltop Church Boston.  The logo is below, and looks great!

If you would like to use our name to represent the ministry, please let us know.

We love growing beards and healthy ministries for men.

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