Archive | August, 2017

Sifting Through Junk

15 Aug

My grandmother recently passed away. Don’t be too sad for her, she lived a spunky ninety-three years!

As grandma spent her final days in the hospital, I spent some time living in her home. During my first night, a baskets full of creepy baby dolls with cracked ceramic faces kept me company. After a few hours of restless sleep, I crawled out of bed and carried the dolls upstairs.

© 2010 Amy, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio

© 2010 Amy, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio

Grandma’s house was full of stuff – puzzles, books, and magazines, ceramics, and baby angels. I also need to mention the dish towels. Baskets full of dish towels- which had never been used- apparently these baskets were for decoration only. When Granny heard I was staying in the house, she called me over and firmly instructed me to not use the towels. Although I laughed inwardly, it was no joking matter for her.

After her death, we began to sift through her possessions trying to decide what to do with all her stuff. Some of it was immediately trashed, while other items were marked for a garage sale. The baskets full of towels were divided between the grandkids and are now… being used. (Sorry, Grandma.)

Obviously, part of this issue is steeped in this western materialism that runs rampant in our nation. Granny would go to all the Goodwill stores in the area once a week to go “Good-willing.” I recently heard on the radio that as baby boomers pass away, their children don’t want their stuff, and have no idea what to do with it.

The question I ponder is, “what will I leave behind for my children and grandchildren to sift through?” Will they find boxes of trinkets and bags of garbage, or will they find artifacts of love and reminders of a life lived by faith?

David - Prof 2Dr. G. David Boyd is the Managing Director of EA Resources, a nonprofit that seeks to equip churches and parents to minister to the needs of emerging adults.  He is also the founder of the EA Network.  If he can help your community, please contact him at gdavid@earesources.org.

 

10 Ways a Man Makes His Wife Feel Ugly without Saying a Thing

11 Aug

This list is long, and impossible to keep to perfection.  However, this article is a powerful reminder to how our actions and words affect those whom we love.  I pray that one or more of these will be used by the Spirit in your life to build or rebuild your marriage.

Days before I got married, my pastor’s wife told me, “Your husband will never intentionally hurt you.” Twenty-two years later, I believe she was right—for the most part. Yet the key word is “intentionally”. Even though the average guy isn’t making it his mission to hurt his wife, he can unintentionally leave her feeling rejected, unseen, devalued—and ugly—without ever saying a thing.

Here is the full article.

 

Parenting Your Emerging Adult

8 Aug

Equipping yourself for each stage of your child’s development is important.  At each stage, you must pick up a few new tools.  Emerging adulthood is the life phase following adolescents (approximately 18-28 years old).  For a full description, read this!

Here is a podcast by Steven Argue, who is an expert on emerging adulthood and faith.  He is also the parent of three emerging adults.

Click Here for the Podcast!

If you work regularly with Emerging Adults, connect with Steve and many others through joining the EA Network on Facebook.

Steve joined the Fuller Theological Seminary faculty in June 2015 in a hybrid role as assistant professor of youth, family, and culture and as an applied research strategist with the Fuller Youth Institute (FYI). He is a thought leader and researcher with decades of on-the-ground ministry experience.

Questions to Ask before they leave for College

7 Aug

Fall is upon us, and student will soon be packing their bags and leaving for college.  If your child is leaving, Kara Powell from the Fuller Youth Institute released this article about preparing your child for college.  Dr. Kara Powell is the Executive Director of the Fuller Youth Institute (FYI) and a faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary.

When our oldest started high school, multiple older parents told me that high school would fly by. I didn’t believe them, but now that Nathan is diving into eleventh grade, I’ve jumped on the “high school goes so fast” bandwagon.

Here is the full article! 

Pass it along to someone you know is dropping off a student this fall.

If you work with emerging adults, please join Kara and other members of the Fuller Youth Institute as members of the EA Network – a networking site on Facebook.

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The Debate Continues – Are Beards falling out of style?

5 Aug

Let’s be real.

Most men who have beards really don’t care whether they are in style or not.

I have a love-hate relationships with shaving.  My wife loves it.  I hate it.  Therefore, I usually have about five days of hair growth before I shave it off.

Here is the article.

beardsIn the past few years, a number of predictions have declared the end of the beard. “Sorry guys, beards are over,” said the website Mashable. “Beards Aren’t Cool Anymore,” said Vice.

But beards are still here — at the Oscars, parading down catwalks and on regular guys. Could it be that beards are more than a fashion statement? Continue reading

Playing our best to the very end

2 Aug

 

© 2014 Lydia Liu, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio

I took my son (who is 9) to his community basketball game. He loves the sport, enjoys his team, and plays hard.  This season has been hard, and they are not the best team. They lost today’s game by the score of 45 to 0.

 

The zero is not a type-o.

As my son struggled on the court, I found myself on the sidelines trying to deal with my own emotions. My son was the team’s only dribbler who could get it down the court, and when he was out (which by league rules was every other four minutes), they stole the ball every single time. I watched as time after time, the opposing team would attack the ball at half court, steal it, and make a lay-up.

At some point in this game – remember it is a game – a coach might call his team to back off, back up (to maybe three point line), and allow the other team to shoot the ball. I kept thinking he would, but it didn’t happen.  He yelled at them the entire game.

With five seconds left, the coach called a timeout in order to ensure my son’s team wouldn’t even get a last chance to put a point on the scoreboard. Following the game, three of the boys sat on the bench crying.

After the game, I overheard a parent tell this coach- “Good game.”

Was it a good game? At what point, do we as parents (regardless of which side our child is on) question the “goodness” of such a game? At what point, do we wonder if something is wrong?

Apparently, some people believe winning is not enough to win. Apparently, some people believe you must do your very best to the very end. However, I think doing your best includes looking across the court, across the room, and across the world to see how our best can actually lead to the destruction to others.

I want my children to know that a game is a game. I want them to know that there comes a point when you work to make the game enjoyable for all.

The following night at practice, I asked my son how practice went. My son replied, “Well, I was playing offense in a drill against my team. I kept scoring, and they were just not getting it. “So I pulled back, so they would learn what the coach wanted without getting discouraged.”

I am thankful my son naturally had this insight that others lack. A way of life that doesn’t work towards their own best interests, but also looks to the interests of others. This is a way of life that I believe Christ would call us to follow. This style of play is truly winning.

Philippians 2

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.
You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.

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