Questions to Ask before they leave for College

7 Aug

Fall is upon us, and student will soon be packing their bags and leaving for college.  If your child is leaving, Kara Powell from the Fuller Youth Institute released this article about preparing your child for college.  Dr. Kara Powell is the Executive Director of the Fuller Youth Institute (FYI) and a faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary.

When our oldest started high school, multiple older parents told me that high school would fly by. I didn’t believe them, but now that Nathan is diving into eleventh grade, I’ve jumped on the “high school goes so fast” bandwagon.

Here is the full article! 

Pass it along to someone you know is dropping off a student this fall.

If you work with emerging adults, please join Kara and other members of the Fuller Youth Institute as members of the EA Network – a networking site on Facebook.

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The Debate Continues – Are Beards falling out of style?

5 Aug

Let’s be real.

Most men who have beards really don’t care whether they are in style or not.

I have a love-hate relationships with shaving.  My wife loves it.  I hate it.  Therefore, I usually have about five days of hair growth before I shave it off.

Here is the article.

beardsIn the past few years, a number of predictions have declared the end of the beard. “Sorry guys, beards are over,” said the website Mashable. “Beards Aren’t Cool Anymore,” said Vice.

But beards are still here — at the Oscars, parading down catwalks and on regular guys. Could it be that beards are more than a fashion statement? Continue reading

Playing our best to the very end

2 Aug


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I took my son (who is 9) to his community basketball game. He loves the sport, enjoys his team, and plays hard.  This season has been hard, and they are not the best team. They lost today’s game by the score of 45 to 0.


The zero is not a type-o.

As my son struggled on the court, I found myself on the sidelines trying to deal with my own emotions. My son was the team’s only dribbler who could get it down the court, and when he was out (which by league rules was every other four minutes), they stole the ball every single time. I watched as time after time, the opposing team would attack the ball at half court, steal it, and make a lay-up.

At some point in this game – remember it is a game – a coach might call his team to back off, back up (to maybe three point line), and allow the other team to shoot the ball. I kept thinking he would, but it didn’t happen.  He yelled at them the entire game.

With five seconds left, the coach called a timeout in order to ensure my son’s team wouldn’t even get a last chance to put a point on the scoreboard. Following the game, three of the boys sat on the bench crying.

After the game, I overheard a parent tell this coach- “Good game.”

Was it a good game? At what point, do we as parents (regardless of which side our child is on) question the “goodness” of such a game? At what point, do we wonder if something is wrong?

Apparently, some people believe winning is not enough to win. Apparently, some people believe you must do your very best to the very end. However, I think doing your best includes looking across the court, across the room, and across the world to see how our best can actually lead to the destruction to others.

I want my children to know that a game is a game. I want them to know that there comes a point when you work to make the game enjoyable for all.

The following night at practice, I asked my son how practice went. My son replied, “Well, I was playing offense in a drill against my team. I kept scoring, and they were just not getting it. “So I pulled back, so they would learn what the coach wanted without getting discouraged.”

I am thankful my son naturally had this insight that others lack. A way of life that doesn’t work towards their own best interests, but also looks to the interests of others. This is a way of life that I believe Christ would call us to follow. This style of play is truly winning.

Philippians 2

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.
You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.

Becoming a Man – Taking time to Laugh

29 Jul

I am a fan of the show The Middle for many reasons.  Being a man in today’s world doesn’t happen by accident [What is a Man?].  It doesn’t happen by simply getting older.  As a father of three future men, this clip reminds me how I need to walk with my children as they mature into men.

While the journey may sometimes be frustrating, it can also be humorous.

Watch this clip as a reminder to take time to laugh while training your children.

Here is a clip from The Middle, from an episode called “the Smell.”

Brick and Deodorant

Why did emerging adults not vote in the 2016? What does this mean for the Church?

26 Jul

In the 2016 election, 46% percent of emerging adults (18-29) voted.  This percentage was up slightly from the 2012 election.  Historically, younger Americans do not vote as much as older generations.  For example, over 70% of those over the age of 65 voted in the election.  We could say that the reason that emerging adults don’t vote is because they are all lazy and narcissistic, but that would not be true.

I believe that young voters often do not believe that their vote will make a difference.

Democracy is built upon a belief that each individual has a voice, and that each vote matters.

I recently read an article that was discussing the recent election in the United Kingdom.  In the last election (which included the decision about the UK leaving the European Union), 43% of voters between the ages of 18-24 did not vote.  The author stated that behind each young adult, there is a story as to why they feel as if their vote did not matter.

The author states that she believes the same thing is true about the church.  She states, “If they [emerging adults] haven’t been included in decision making and leadership, if they’ve been patronized or belittled, why would they bother turning up?”  I believe that there is a correlation between the involvement of emerging adults in the institutions of government and the church.

Emerging adults are rarely allowed into places of leadership.  Emerging adults are rarely given the opportunity for their voice to be heard.

The decline of religion in the UK has been occurring for many decades, and as the decline of religion is becoming clear in the US (Millennial Exodus), we should listen and learn from them.

Unfortunately, sometimes current church leadership does not want them to vote – because they are afraid.  They are afraid of what the new generation believes.  So instead of everyone coming together to work out our differences, we simple don’t leave room for them at the table.

Instead of fear, I believe that we should respond in faith.

Without the voice and vote of emerging adults, the church suffers.

Relevant Links

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Managing Director of EA Resources.  He is the founder of the EA Network.  If he can help you and your community ministry to the emerging adults in your community, please contact him at

5 Ways to Kill Warmth in Your Family (by Kara Powell)

22 Jul

This article came out last year from Kara Powell.  It is a great reminder about how to build a healthy (or warm) family environment.  We all want it, but to maintain this environment, it takes constant work.  Enjoy. Continue reading

The 7 Marks of Maturity

19 Jul

As I have watched my children mature, I need to reflect on my own life. Am I still maturing, or simply growing old?

As I have gotten older, I have been through some good and bad timesI am now past forty, and often wonder if I have become more mature with age, or just – older.  Here is a checklist of thoughts to evaluate whether you are becoming better with age, or just simply older.

Dr. Tim Elmore shares 7 marks of maturity that can be used as a measuring stick to help our kids move past the tollbooth of adolescence towards mature adulthood. This list is not exhaustive, but it’s a great place to start an ongoing dialogue with your children:

1. A mature person is able to keep long-term commitments. One key signal of maturity is the ability to delay gratification. Part of this means a student is able to keep commitments even when they’re no longer new, novel, or they don’t feel like it. 

Here is the rest of the article.

Read more about the seven marks of maturity in the book, Generation iY:  Our Last Chance to Save Their Future by Dr. Tim Elmore.

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