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7 Bible Figures Who Struggled with Depression

26 Sep

Depression is a major problem among men in the church.

I know, because I have been there.

Unfortunately, the church community was not the solution to my depression, but it was the cause.  (Here is part of my story – PTCD – Post-Traumatic Church Disorder).

Here is an article that I found on the web concerning depression.

We rub shoulders every day with people who are desperate, hurting, and lonely. We may not even be aware of the dark road they travel. Sometimes we notice, but often we don’t. Maybe we’re too busy, preoccupied, or overwhelmed ourselves. To be honest, many days, we might be those people, the desperate, the hurting, the lonely.

Read the entire article here.

7 Bible Figures Who Struggled with Depression

Here are some other articles dealing with this difficult topic.

David - Prof 2Dr. G. David Boyd is Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to equip church and parents to minister to the needs of emerging adults.  He is also the Founder of the EA Network, a community designed to link those who serve emerging adults within the church.

Pinned but not down.

9 Aug

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When he was eleven, my son decided to try out for the wrestling team.  We got the gear, and showed up for practice.  Now you need to understand that this wasn’t just any program, but this was the club team for Apple Valley, Minnesota.  Apple Valley is a team that has won national championships.  People move across the nation to be a part of this program.

It is intense to say the least.

As practice began, the boys were sent running and running, then crawling, then skipping around the gym.  I was exhausted just by watching.

Then they began to pair off for wrestling.  My son saw a friend and the two of them ran off to their mat.  I tried not to watch the entire night, but when I did catch his eye, I knew that it was not going so well.  When the coach called the practice, he could barely stand, but he had not given up.

He approached me with a smile and said, “3 wins, and 23 losses.”  While I hope that not every night at practice is that difficult, I do know that as I see him struggle, he will not be the same.

The tenacity and strength that he showed that night on the mat is what I need.  When problems weigh me down, when pain has a hold, when I am disoriented from the struggle.  I will not lose heart, but I will smile and rise again.

I feel this may have been how the Apostle Paul felt when he wrote these words…

We are pressed on all sides, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.… (2 Corinthians 4:8-9)

David - Prof 2May you find faith in the difficult places of life.  May you know that your weakness will be replenished by His strength.  May you rise from the mat again ready to face a new challenge.

Dr. G. David Boyd is Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to educate parents and churches about emerging adulthood.  He is also the Founder of the EA Network, a networking community for those who minister to emerging adults.

 

Post-Traumatic Church Disorder – PTCD

8 Mar
Old Church from Flickr via Wylio

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I am not a psychologist, nor do I want to pretend to be.  I am however, a survivor an abusive church.  Every day, I deal with PTCD – Post-Traumatic Church Disorder.     Continue reading

The “Millennial Exodus” from the Church – Is the Future of the Church at Stake?

13 Oct

The Pew Research released a new study confirming that Millennials are exiting the church.  If you missed the articles, you can read more HERE and HERE.

I have often heard the expression, “The Church is one generation from extinction” as a reason why youth/children’s ministry is important for the church.

I hate that statement – because it is not true.

The church is not in danger of extinction.  Do not fret over the future of HIS church, but have faith in its Owner and Builder and the One who says, “I will always have remnant unto myself.”  (Romans 11:3-5)  God’s church will stand forever, and even “the gates of hell will not prevail against it.” (Matthew 16:18)

Abandoned church on Adak Island, Alaska from Flickr via Wylio

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While the future of the church is NOT at stake; however, the future church may look different.

In the Old Testament, God’s people experienced many times of transition.  In Ezra 3, the Jews having been released from Babylonian captivity are working to rebuild the temple.  It was a monumental time of celebration; however, we also read:

Yet many of the priests and Levites and heads of fathers’ households, the old men who had seen the first temple, wept with a loud voice when the foundation of this house was laid before their eyes. 

Those who had seen the beauty of the first temple were sad because this new temple did not measure up.  The passage describes how that within the crowd – some wept while others rejoiced.

As I read Ezra 3, I ask a few questions.

  • Did the change in the temple’s foundation display God’s abandonment of His people?
  • Did the change in the temple’s foundation reveal that God’s glory was fading?
  • Did the change in the temple’s foundation herald that God’s working would be lessened?

I believe that the answer to all three questions is NO.  So, what was the cause of their tears?

The future of the church is not at stake; however, 

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There will be tears – for those who cling to past forms and formulas of religious institutions.  Those who sit in leadership will weep as they see ‘their power’ slipping away.

Tears will fall for the loss of their “majority”.

Tears will fall for the loss of big church and big budgets.

There are tears for those who live in days gone by still looking for God to move as He did in days past. There will be tears.

Tears will fall for those who can only see what was, and assume that what was is what should be.

God’s Spirit is not confined to the forms and formulas of today’s world.  God’s work is often found outside religious institutions (If in doubt, check the New Testament.).  God’s voice still speaks to those who listen, and has not lost its power.

His spirit is powerful, and working in lives. His breath can shake the mountains. His word can break stone and melt iron. His will can move the hardest of hearts and stir the slumber to action. So may we cling to the power of the word. May we read the word. May we bring his word to those in power.

Lord, may I bring introduce the power of your word to a new generation. And sit back and watch in wonder and amazement as you work in new ways, in new forms, and to a people that You have reserved unto Yourself.

May I not cry at the laying of a new foundation.  May I rejoice.  May I save my tears.  May my hope rest in God alone.

Soli Deo gloria.

profil pictureDr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit that focuses on providing resources to churches and parents who love emerging adults.

Hunting and Manhood

6 Oct

This past week, I saw this article, and I wanted to pass it along.

“Big-Game Hunting is Not a Test of Manhood”

Hunting with Texas Jim Mitchell and friends in the Florida Everglades from Flickr via Wylio

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The articles discusses how some people imagine big animal hunting as a man versus beast showdown.  Here are some points that the author makes:

  •  The author seems to say that there is a natural “adolescent fantasy of a connection between killing animals and manhood.”  Whether this man versus beast mentality is natural or produced by our culture, I am not sure; however, I believe it does exist for many boys.  One summer day, a friend and I found a huge gathering of snakes in a pit near our woods, and we spent the entire day waging war in order to bolster our sense of strength and courage.
  • The author also seems to believe that men need regular affirmation of their manhood. “But if you can’t find ways to confirm your manhood without killing animals, and if you can’t kill animals with Robert Wilson’s already faded sense of integrity, well, what have you got?”

I am not against hunting, but I agree with the author that it should not be driven by a need to attain manhood.

I believe that manhood is something many of us struggle with through our lives.  We ask ourselves if we have arrived.  We wonder if we are as strong, brave, and equal to other men, or even to our own father.  As a community, we must establish markers and images of manhood that are definable, attainable, and biblical.

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to help emerging adults step forward into adulthood.

Three Marks of the Spiritually Immature

8 Sep

My youngest son – Tobias.

Babies require a lot of attention.

  • Babies cannot feed themselves.
  • Babies stick.
  • Babies can’t defend themselves.

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Stinky Armpits and Manhood – Can the two be Severed?

4 Jun
Eeeeew. A chemist's on Portobello Road in London. So much for the whole up-market Notting Hill thing, eh?

I don’t really know what to say. This is really necessary?

Defining Manhood within your Home.

Recently, my wife and I had to buy deodorant for our middle child.  Although he is young, his armpits just smell terrible.  So we had the conversation planned out perfectly, so as to not hurt his feelings, and help him adjust to this new idea.

As soon as we shared the news, he exclaimed.  “I’m a man.”  My wife and I just sat their confused.  Instead of sad about his stench, he accepted the news with great pride as a sign of his being a man.   I am not sure where he got this idea, because I sure don’t run around the house proclaiming the manliness of stinky armpits.

In a world where there are many strange ideas about what being a man is all about, I believe it is important for me to define manhood (based on God’s truth, and with God’s direction) for my three future men.

I am a believer in celebrating rites of passage (link) within a family.  As my oldest turns ten this spring, I am already planning ahead a first step in his transition from boy to man.  A pattern that I appreciate and have chosen to use in my own family comes from Robert Lewis’ book, Raising a Modern-day Knight.

During my years in ministry, I have observed and participated in several rites of passage with young men.  One emerging adult spoke about his father’s role in preparing him to be a dad,

My dad played a large role in my transition into being a man.  When I left for college, he told me, ‘You’re a man now.’  He trained me.  I know that I have his support.  He will back me up and give me advice.  He was the man in my life, and he has trained me on what to do in order to be a man”.

That is the way I want to lead my sons, so that they will understand what God calls us to be as men.  This is not a project that I should do alone, but something I want to do with my wife.  Rachel and I did some reflecting together on what we most want for our boys to be, and we set three goals for our little men.

Boyd Crest - JpegAs a symbol and teaching tool for my family, I asked a friend to sketch a Boyd Family Crest (the uber-talented Allen Nevalainen).  My hope is that each of my boys will instill the values that it represents.  The swords represent the community that they will need as they journey through life.  The rose represents the love that they will demonstrate to others.  The cross represents the purpose for their lives.  The Greek words on the banner can be translated, “One Lord, One Faith, One Hope.”

I believe that intentionality is important for raising our boys to become healthy men.

How do you plan to pass along a legacy of authentic manhood?  Share a thought for our community.

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