Tag Archives: Men

The Golden Calf of Youth Sports

4 Oct

We usually go to church on Saturday evenings. This happens to coincide with my favorite sport to watch – college football. Often, my team would be playing right up until church starts. I leave the TV set, but keep wondering about the outcome, distracted through the entire church service. I’m not focused on the message or the worship.

andrew-soccerBut, I can focus plenty when I’m in game mode. I make sure the screen and volume are precise. Food is prepared, distractions are limited (kids, wife, phone calls…). I was telling my family, “Family, I’m going to be worshiping the next few hours during this football game – don’t interrupt!”

Over time, I heard God asking me some tough questions:

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Chad FosterChad serves as the Middle School Assistant Principal at Christian Academy of Louisville. He is passionate about men leading their homes and our country. He is married to Hollie and is raising 3 children.

7 Bible Figures Who Struggled with Depression

26 Sep

Depression is a major problem among men in the church.

I know, because I have been there.

Unfortunately, the church community was not the solution to my depression, but it was the cause.  (Here is part of my story – PTCD – Post-Traumatic Church Disorder).

Here is an article that I found on the web concerning depression.

We rub shoulders every day with people who are desperate, hurting, and lonely. We may not even be aware of the dark road they travel. Sometimes we notice, but often we don’t. Maybe we’re too busy, preoccupied, or overwhelmed ourselves. To be honest, many days, we might be those people, the desperate, the hurting, the lonely.

Read the entire article here.

7 Bible Figures Who Struggled with Depression

Here are some other articles dealing with this difficult topic.

David - Prof 2Dr. G. David Boyd is Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to equip church and parents to minister to the needs of emerging adults.  He is also the Founder of the EA Network, a community designed to link those who serve emerging adults within the church.

Finding Freedom From Anxiety

5 Jan
I found this article posted by Authentic Manhood written by Bill Delvaux.  

Finding Freedom from Anxiety

My freshman year in high school, I ended up with a late lunch period with mostly upperclassmen I didn’t know. I clearly remember walking down into the cafeteria unsure and fearful about where I should sit. I tried eating with a few freshmen I didn’t know and then with some sophomores I barely knew. In both cases, I felt unwanted, like an intruder. So for the next few days, I tried another tactic: I sat by myself at an empty table. It took care of my social anxiety, but now I felt shame at being perceived as a complete misfit, provoking only more anxiety. So I made a crucial decision: I quit going to the lunchroom and ate lunch by myself in the locker room. Sure, I was lonely, but I wasn’t anxious anymore.

Read the entire article here!

Men & Christian Friendship: It Won’t Just Happen on its Own

17 Nov

We all have periods in our lives when we are in need to make new friends.  Although those who know me consider me an extrovert, as I enter a new season of life, I realize that I must push myself in order to make friends.  Here is an article that I hope will encourage you as you establish a network of friends.   Continue reading

Should Men’s Gatherings Have Singing?

22 Oct

ManSingMen’s ministry and singing: for decades the two were inseparable.

Men’s meetings traditionally followed the contours of a worship service. There was a greeting. An invocation. A period of singing. A monologue talk from the group leader. Then a closing prayer and dismissal.

But in the past few years more and more men’s meetings have ditched the group singing — in order to leave more time for small group discussion time.

I think that’s a good thing.   Continue reading

Male-bonding at Church

28 May

Has your church wondered how to attract more men?

As the cartoon illustrates, sometimes the way we speak and act at religious activities turn away men.  However, sometimes churches go too far by assuming that all men want a church designed for the macho-male stereotype.

Manhood is not something that should be stereotyped.  God has created men with various interests, personalities, and qualities.  As the church, we should avoid gender-stereotypes in our teaching and advertising.

How can we show Jesus’ love to the men that God has placed in our lives?

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to equip parents and churches to minister to emerging adults.

 

 

Authenticity in Today’s World

30 Apr

Authenticity is quick to listen.

Authenticity knows that it can learn from a variety of voices at the table, and refuses a seat to no one.  They pull up a chair for those disenfranchised, call attention to those overlooked, and speak on behalf of those muted.

Photo courtesy of Aaron Robert Photography. Copyright 2014. http://www.aaronrobertphotography.com

Authenticity owns its weaknesses, and never provides easy answers.  A call to authenticity often requires us to lead with the broken, the challenging, and the lacking in our lives.  Not in order to find healing or fullness, but to acknowledge the humanity within each of us.

Authenticity is slow to speak.

They consider their words, and do not feel the need to speak first or have the final word.  They understand that they do not need to shout the loudest in order for their words to have an impact. Authenticity does not run to the marketplace demanding the subjugation of others to their ideology.  They understand that who lead with answers are revealed as heralds of their own arrogance and superiority.

Authenticity is slow to wrath.

Photo courtesy of Aaron Robert Photography. Copyright 2013. http://www.aaronrobertphotography.com

Their temperature is not raised by a disagreement, and understands that their world is not in danger due to someone’s opposing view.  They understand that God’s throne is not based upon public discussion or popular vote.

 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to come angry.  James 1:19

As Jesus called out the Pharisees, they fought for their image, clung to their power, and prized their piety.  The authentic individual acts heedless of image, releases power, and prizes the call of God above all else.

This is what will lead the church to intimacy.   This is what will lead the church to healing.

 

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.

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